The Audacity of the Sun 2

We bereaved parents are told about a number of things we can do to prepare for the tough days. Light a candle, say a prayer, call someone and talk to them, read a poem, visit the cemetary, visit one of their friends, the list goes on. What we aren't told is that you can do some of these things or even all of these things -- and you can get passed "the day" -- and maybe one or two more "tough days"-- or maybe a year or a decade -- but it only postpones the time that the heart ache of your grief makes you double over in pain. simply incapacitates you. And you are back to where you started when you first found out about it... but without the comfort of the tears streaming down your face or the numbness that allowed you to do what needed to be done at the time or the cards, calls, flowers and hugs.